2012-02-23T17:32:43Z http://whoyoudatingnow.com/comments/atom.aspx Quick Blogcast tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2012-02-06:15870437 mystery dater 2012-02-06T23:44:02Z 2012-02-06T23:44:02Z What great commentary from such noble guests! Thank you for your responses, time and wisdom. tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2012-02-06:15869732 Dr Roberta Morgan http://drrobertamorgan.com 2012-02-06T15:05:31Z 2012-02-06T15:05:31Z <span> </span>Well, well, well......my comments..............................<br /> <br /> We meet, one or both fall in love with what has been written to represent a caretaker in the past who tendered us or who abused us. Who tendered and cherished you as a child. <br /> Are you an ACOA (Adult Child of Alcoholics) or an ACPP (Adult Child of Psychotic Parents)? If so, you may UNCONSCIOUSLY pick an alcoholic or psychotic partner. Your set point for normal is grossly distorted.<br /> <br /> UNTIL.....they embrace the dysfunction, realize this is a recreation of the past, and LEARN that they deserve a much kinder and expansive partner because they are worthy. <br /> <br /> This is a difficult journey because they have to learn to parent themselves with kindness and acceptance, honor their worth, and be proud of their emotional, spiritual growth. This now allows them to pick a whole partner who will represent their achievement and progress to become whole despite being loved in a dysfunctional way in their family of origin.<br /> <br /> Eckhard Tolle tells us that those who experienced horrific emotional abuse have an amazing opportunity to become whole and content, to <br /> make this universe a better place. <br /> <br /> I often think romance is a sacred form of insanity. If we meet, "feel a chemical attraction," resulting in consummation of the "relationship," we may feel temporarily whole and bonded. All thanks to 20 mgs of Oxytocin released during orgasmic release. Thrill seekers often cherish serial monogamy to re-experience the aforementioned scenario.<br /> <br /> A NY Times article about marriage poignantly lists some qualities we may choose to seek in a potential partner. Perhaps if we chose a partner with the following criteria we would be able to keep nearly everyones must have list of everlasting sexual chemistry and not getting bored with the other over time. <br /> <br /> How much does being with your partner result in having new experiences?<br /> When you are with your partner, do you feel a greater awareness of life?<br /> How much does your partner increase your ability to accomplish new things and help you expand your own capabilities?<br /> How much do your partner's skills, abilities and other strengths as a person compensate for some of your own weaknesses?<br /> How much do you feel that you have a larger perspective on things because of your partner?<br /> How much has being with your partner resulted in learning new things?<br /> How much has knowing your partner increased your knowledge and helped you become a better person?<br /> <br /> This list mandates the partners are high on Maslow's hierarchy of self actually (meaning they don't have monkey brains). <br /> <br /> Just my thoughts, "now you will be able to keep the fires burning sexually, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2012-02-05:15860030 An Interested Reader 2012-02-05T21:45:54Z 2012-02-05T21:45:54Z Yes, balance is the key. Unconditional love is rare and probably not healthy. Give and take, a 'deal' good for both parties makes for a good relationship. People sometimes get caught up in 'helping someone.' It makes them feel important and needed. It also can get them involved with the 'needy' or people who know how to manipulate. The ideal match is two strong people who complement each other. Two people who share both chemistry and compatibility. the Mystery Dater's entry today is mild and does not stir much controversy. PS-A note about 'love at first sight': If it lasts, it must survive the above. Also, some times, it takes more time to get to know if there is real love present. tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2012-01-05:14975211 Mystery dater 2012-01-05T19:33:55Z 2012-01-05T19:33:55Z To Interested Reader:<br /> I shall try to put in more what "to do" comments in the future. Yes, I Date and there are many ads I approve of, but they are not as interesting as the failures. Besides, we learn from mistakes - hopefully others!<br /> Thanks for reading,<br /> MD tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2012-01-04:14905352 JBS 2012-01-04T18:03:37Z 2012-01-04T18:03:37Z So amused. Thoroughly enjoyed!!!! One of your better posts! Thanks for sharing your thoughts... totally made me smile! Oh, and btw... love that this has spell check, so your readers don't look stupid, like your some of your potential dates. tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2012-01-04:14893746 An Interested Reader 2012-01-04T14:24:04Z 2012-01-04T14:24:04Z I look forward to seeing what is happening in your dating life Mystery Dater. This post is all what not to do. So, what do people do? If you are teaching a 'how to', please give positive examples. Better yet, have there been any ads that you approve of? Is online dating really a place to meet a quality person? Are personal recommendations better? Are you even dating or just writing about it? tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2012-01-04:14878057 Lynne 2012-01-04T06:39:41Z 2012-01-04T06:39:41Z Another great article but the bottom line for me is....it does not matter what one may write about themselves. What matters is how you both get along once you meet. People can write anything but action speaks louder than words. Same goes for talking on the phone. No matter what someone writes or may say, you really don't know them until you meet and spend time getting to know each other. Same goes for the phone conversations. Let me tell you if you are a sharp cookie you will know by the 2nd or 3rd time you get together if there is a 2nd or 3rd time, how real the person is and what they are truly looking for if anything. <br /> <br /> Another old saying...can' judge a book by its cover. Need to read a couple of chapters.<br /> <br /> Happy Internet dating (*.*) tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2011-12-18:14172892 Johnny 2011-12-19T03:42:05Z 2011-12-19T03:42:05Z <span> </span>Maybe those writing the profiles should learn to spell and take an English course before they post. How can they do their personal promo all glitzed up and present so poorly? tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2011-12-11:13846759 Kay 2011-12-11T16:45:34Z 2011-12-11T16:45:34Z My Mother always said there is good in everyone!! And I have tried to live by that-----<br /> But her favorite color was RED- I would tell her that she even found something "GOOD" in the devil himself-- tag:www.whoyoudatingnow.com,2011-11-13:12866419 Kay 2011-11-13T17:15:22Z 2011-11-13T17:15:22Z SO funny and true--it made me smile---